I was treating a female patient in her 30's for minor injuries caused by a vehicular accident. She was eventually sent home, but I advised her to come back after a week for the sutures to be removed.
After a week, she came back to the out patient with a big smile, cupcakes and sodas, thanking me for treating her so gently. I took it as a complement so I accepted her gift.
The week after, she sent flowers, home baked cookies, and a card which contained poems about love and romance. I told her that I am already in a relationship, but she kept coming back to my clinic, and even expressed that my partner did not have to know about her. What will I do?
What will you do if a patient falls in love with her doctor?
You handle this the same way you'd handle the unwanted attentions of any female - with kindness, firmness and tact. Tell her in no uncertain terms that while you find this flattering you are not available and not interested in starting an extra relationship. You'll be happy to continue the professional relationship but that's all it can be. Do not see this patient without a female medical assistant present at all times. Return on the spot any further gifts, do not accept them. Do not accept her phone calls unless they pertain to her medical care. Eventually, she'll get over her infatuation. If she does not, give her the 30-day notice and hand her over to some one else. You know the protocol to avoid abandonment. If you're in a group practice, is there a female physician who can treat her instead?
You didn't mention what your job is. Tell us. If you're not a doctor, you won't have to worry about abandonment.
Reply:Maybe your partner would like a threesome. Why don't you ask him?
Reply:As a fellow healthcare professional I understand the conflict of interests here. Usually its un-ethical to engage in a romantic relationship with a patient and you can use that as an excuse to let her down gently (thats assuming you care about your current relationship). If you do not care then by all means pursue this...if she is not currently a patient I think you are in the clear.
Reply:Hey Levelhead, Your the doctor, you tell us! Surely they taught you something about this issue in school. I bet its not that uncommon. Psychiatrists have that problem alot, or so I hear. Are you sure your not liking this attention a little too much? I think you do!! The sickest, strangest person I ever dated was a doctor......Hmmmm, It makes me wonder! Ask your girlfriend what you should do. I bet she'll have the answer for you!!! See yha later "cupcake"!! Kandice
Reply:she may be a headache for you.Don't trust her u may loose ur previous relation which is good.
Reply:Which girl u like the best??
Reply:You obviously have no consideration for your partner. Maybe you do, but the fact that you are asking me that question leaves me to this conclusion:
go out with the patient, it seems like you have an interest. Get to know her as a person and , there is nothing wrong with getting to know someone. But make sure nothing is wrong befor you jump into another relationship.
Reply:She sounds like a stalker. Make sure you tell your partner about it - honesty is the best policy in this kind of situation. Also, next time she sends something you can refuse the delivery. Don't take her calls. Don't make time for her at the hospital. And certainly don't ever be alone with her. Always have a witness.
Reply:In my point of view, if you and your partner are in good relationship, you don't need to find a spare one. However, if it's bad relationship, you both should consider to build up good relationship; otherwise, it should be broken. Anyway, if you are in relationship with someone, you should sincere to her. For this situation, I would suggest, if you choose your partner, tell your partner about your patient before she know by herself or other person. Then you should express clearly to the patient that your relationship is so well and you and your patient can be friend but not lover.
Reply:One of the hardest things to do is to be close to your patients without becoming involved. Having been in that position once ,The best of all possible answers is to be very forthright and say no to all gifts from any patient. Some will take it hard but you must protect your self before it turns ugly. In this case be very firm make sure you have a witness and tell them NO and also tell them you will no longer be their care provider. From this point on have someone else take care of the patient. One must always be on-guard as some people will take the slightest phrase or action as to be an open invitation for advances. Patients still look at Doctors, Nurse Practitioners and Physician Assistants as Hero's that can do no wrong. Protect your self at all times never take anything from a patient.
A question for men
Monday, January 30, 2012
If you're meeting your bf's/gf's parents for the first time, should you bring them gifts?
Like flowers, a bottle of scotch, etc.
Any other good pointers for this situation worth sharing?
If you're meeting your bf's/gf's parents for the first time, should you bring them gifts?
if you are going to dinner at their house, for example, a gift is not a bad idea, just like you would bring to anyone's house if they were hosting you; whatever you are doing when you meet them, i would bring something appropriate to that event. ie. dinner, something more formal, like liquor, lunch, something more informal, etc. yes, a gift would be fine, nothing outrageous, just a normal host gift.
Reply:It would not hurt to bring a small thoughtful gift. The small gift would also serve as an ice-breaker too.
Be kind and smile!
Reply:It's always a great idea to bring a gift. If you're unsure, ask your bf/gf what the parents like. Maybe a nice fruit basket. Just don't get anything wildly extravagant or obviously cheap.
Reply:Not necessary. You are the gift to them.......their future DIL. When your relationship with their son is more stable and has a future, then you may want to give them a gift when you visit.
Reply:It depends on your age.... if your younger than 21 than I think it would make them a little uncomfortable. If you are over 21 though it is VERY appropriate to bring a gift. Parents always like to be thought of, it makes them realize that you are serious. Bring them a bottle of wine or some kind of gift for the home. DO NOT BRING FLOWERS. Flowers are for women mostly and the last thing you want to do it piss of the father. Make sure he can enjoy the gift also.
Reply:depends but don't be too formal you might make them nervous.
Reply:I don't think it would be necessary unless it was based around some kind of party. Just be nice, don't brag too much, etc.
Reply:No, do not bring a gift. But go there with a friendly attitude. Tell them Hello and happy to meet them. Not overly friendly, but nice. Stay callm and don't be outspoken. Absolutely , no arrogance. They are experts at picking up on ones attitude. Don't degrade or talk about your family. Always be kind and gracious. When you leave, tell them it was nice meeting them. Good Luck !
Reply:I've always brought flowers and if you'd like to splurge a nice small arrangement or basket sent ahead of time gives a nice touch. Alcohol is not always a good idea, they may not be drinkers or only enjoy a particular type of liquor or brand. Good Luck!
Any other good pointers for this situation worth sharing?
If you're meeting your bf's/gf's parents for the first time, should you bring them gifts?
if you are going to dinner at their house, for example, a gift is not a bad idea, just like you would bring to anyone's house if they were hosting you; whatever you are doing when you meet them, i would bring something appropriate to that event. ie. dinner, something more formal, like liquor, lunch, something more informal, etc. yes, a gift would be fine, nothing outrageous, just a normal host gift.
Reply:It would not hurt to bring a small thoughtful gift. The small gift would also serve as an ice-breaker too.
Be kind and smile!
Reply:It's always a great idea to bring a gift. If you're unsure, ask your bf/gf what the parents like. Maybe a nice fruit basket. Just don't get anything wildly extravagant or obviously cheap.
Reply:Not necessary. You are the gift to them.......their future DIL. When your relationship with their son is more stable and has a future, then you may want to give them a gift when you visit.
Reply:It depends on your age.... if your younger than 21 than I think it would make them a little uncomfortable. If you are over 21 though it is VERY appropriate to bring a gift. Parents always like to be thought of, it makes them realize that you are serious. Bring them a bottle of wine or some kind of gift for the home. DO NOT BRING FLOWERS. Flowers are for women mostly and the last thing you want to do it piss of the father. Make sure he can enjoy the gift also.
Reply:depends but don't be too formal you might make them nervous.
Reply:I don't think it would be necessary unless it was based around some kind of party. Just be nice, don't brag too much, etc.
Reply:No, do not bring a gift. But go there with a friendly attitude. Tell them Hello and happy to meet them. Not overly friendly, but nice. Stay callm and don't be outspoken. Absolutely , no arrogance. They are experts at picking up on ones attitude. Don't degrade or talk about your family. Always be kind and gracious. When you leave, tell them it was nice meeting them. Good Luck !
Reply:I've always brought flowers and if you'd like to splurge a nice small arrangement or basket sent ahead of time gives a nice touch. Alcohol is not always a good idea, they may not be drinkers or only enjoy a particular type of liquor or brand. Good Luck!
Should gifts to men be given on Valentine's day?
Would a guy like to receive flowers?
Should gifts to men be given on Valentine's day?
maybe depends on the guy i guess and yes v-day is to celebrate love if the man is loved then give him a gift to show it
Reply:Flowers are a universal and unisex gift. If your guy becomes upset about receiving a bouquet, I'd be wondering seriously about him. Just don't necessarily send it to his workplace.
As for other gifts...you in a new set of lingerie, tickets to an event he wants to attend, "Love" Coupons, etc.
Reply:hell yah!!!
Reply:Flowers? no.
Reply:hell no, my man thinks flowers are for girls. he prefers GUY gifts, like the ones that say for HIM on it. I got him some chocolates that say for JUST FOR HIM on them.
IDK i guess its kinda like funny for a girl to give a guy flowers unless of course he is into horticulture or something.
Reply:I don't necessarily think flowers is the best gift for a guy on V-Day. Maybe movie tickets? "Love" coupons made by you that he can 'cash' in?
Reply:I see nothing wrong with giving a man flowers if he's the type that would appreciate them. You could also put car wash tokens in his card or a gift certificate to the video store any number of things. I'm sure he'll appreciate the gesture on your part. Enjoy.
Reply:I've known guys who have liked recieving flowers. It's not for every guy of course, but if you have a sensitive guy, then it might work. If you really want to do the flowers thing, some flower shops have arrangements that they put in little trucks or cars instead of a typical vase. They're really cute! And if they won't do it at the flower shop, you could always go get a toy truck or something and do it yourself!
http://www.countrysquireflowers.com/imag...
http://www.countrysquireflowers.com/imag...
http://www.theromantic.com/stories/flowe...
http://www.proflowers.com/flowerguide/fl...
Reply:I don't know about flowers for a guy. My first boyfriend said that girls get gifts on Vday, and they shouldn't have to worry about getting anything for the guy. It's a girl's holiday, but I can't help myself. I love Vday!!
Reply:It will be surprising giving him flowers. But I rather give him something manly on valentines day..
Reply:Yes, definitely! We love them as much as they love us, so why wouldn't we give them gifts?
I've tried flowers once or twice (even had them dyed blue) but they really don't go over that well. I guess it may depend on the guy but I'm sure most guys would prefer something else. I asked my bf what the equivalent of flowers was to a guy %26amp; he said a fishing lure.
I got him chocolates, a Valentine mug, a robe, a remote for the garage door %26amp; framed b%26amp;w pix of us to put on the wall (that he wanted to do).
Should gifts to men be given on Valentine's day?
maybe depends on the guy i guess and yes v-day is to celebrate love if the man is loved then give him a gift to show it
Reply:Flowers are a universal and unisex gift. If your guy becomes upset about receiving a bouquet, I'd be wondering seriously about him. Just don't necessarily send it to his workplace.
As for other gifts...you in a new set of lingerie, tickets to an event he wants to attend, "Love" Coupons, etc.
Reply:hell yah!!!
Reply:Flowers? no.
Reply:hell no, my man thinks flowers are for girls. he prefers GUY gifts, like the ones that say for HIM on it. I got him some chocolates that say for JUST FOR HIM on them.
IDK i guess its kinda like funny for a girl to give a guy flowers unless of course he is into horticulture or something.
Reply:I don't necessarily think flowers is the best gift for a guy on V-Day. Maybe movie tickets? "Love" coupons made by you that he can 'cash' in?
Reply:I see nothing wrong with giving a man flowers if he's the type that would appreciate them. You could also put car wash tokens in his card or a gift certificate to the video store any number of things. I'm sure he'll appreciate the gesture on your part. Enjoy.
Reply:I've known guys who have liked recieving flowers. It's not for every guy of course, but if you have a sensitive guy, then it might work. If you really want to do the flowers thing, some flower shops have arrangements that they put in little trucks or cars instead of a typical vase. They're really cute! And if they won't do it at the flower shop, you could always go get a toy truck or something and do it yourself!
http://www.countrysquireflowers.com/imag...
http://www.countrysquireflowers.com/imag...
http://www.theromantic.com/stories/flowe...
http://www.proflowers.com/flowerguide/fl...
Reply:I don't know about flowers for a guy. My first boyfriend said that girls get gifts on Vday, and they shouldn't have to worry about getting anything for the guy. It's a girl's holiday, but I can't help myself. I love Vday!!
Reply:It will be surprising giving him flowers. But I rather give him something manly on valentines day..
Reply:Yes, definitely! We love them as much as they love us, so why wouldn't we give them gifts?
I've tried flowers once or twice (even had them dyed blue) but they really don't go over that well. I guess it may depend on the guy but I'm sure most guys would prefer something else. I asked my bf what the equivalent of flowers was to a guy %26amp; he said a fishing lure.
I got him chocolates, a Valentine mug, a robe, a remote for the garage door %26amp; framed b%26amp;w pix of us to put on the wall (that he wanted to do).
Gifts based on gender??
do you judge people on what they like..based on gender??
many people say that the best gifts to give a woman are=flowers, chocolate, a card, jewlary..%26amp; men=watches and pens+any sporty stuff.
dude...if someone buys me a presant,t'would be a waste of $$ to buy a card w/it..i don't like cards, i will throw them away and if that person wants to say a special comment like "happy birthday" they can just say it..i'm not death. if we're talking flowers, i'd just give them away to my sister or w/e.."here i got these for you"..and jewlary? well no one has my taste so i'd rather buy it myself..THAT'S IT..and i'm a girl.
not all women are tender+melt easily.. some might but not all..women can love sports, they can hate flowers and some don't wear jewlary.
men can like flowers..i've seen many wear jewlary (mostly rings)..some are into poetry, some hate sports, and many love chocolate! chocolate isn't womanly, it's a yummie treat that many people love.
Gifts based on gender??
Nah, I give gifts on the basis of what the person wants/likes instead of basing it on their gender.
Reply:If I were going to give you a gift, it would be a spelling dictionary, regardless of your gender.
sports shoes
many people say that the best gifts to give a woman are=flowers, chocolate, a card, jewlary..%26amp; men=watches and pens+any sporty stuff.
dude...if someone buys me a presant,t'would be a waste of $$ to buy a card w/it..i don't like cards, i will throw them away and if that person wants to say a special comment like "happy birthday" they can just say it..i'm not death. if we're talking flowers, i'd just give them away to my sister or w/e.."here i got these for you"..and jewlary? well no one has my taste so i'd rather buy it myself..THAT'S IT..and i'm a girl.
not all women are tender+melt easily.. some might but not all..women can love sports, they can hate flowers and some don't wear jewlary.
men can like flowers..i've seen many wear jewlary (mostly rings)..some are into poetry, some hate sports, and many love chocolate! chocolate isn't womanly, it's a yummie treat that many people love.
Gifts based on gender??
Nah, I give gifts on the basis of what the person wants/likes instead of basing it on their gender.
Reply:If I were going to give you a gift, it would be a spelling dictionary, regardless of your gender.
sports shoes
Do you like when a guy brings you flowers or you think a gift is more suitable?
i like flowers. my guy brings me a single rose every now and again just because. it is sweet.
Do you like when a guy brings you flowers or you think a gift is more suitable?
I love flowers!!!!
Reply:I love flowers especially when there in my fav color
Gifts are more for like birthdays and christmas and stuff
Reply:Flowers are nice. Gifts only on special occasion such as birthday.
Reply:flowers are great, especially sunflowers! :)
Reply:A six pack will make me happy!
Reply:anything that is given as a gesture should be appreciated
Do you like when a guy brings you flowers or you think a gift is more suitable?
I love flowers!!!!
Reply:I love flowers especially when there in my fav color
Gifts are more for like birthdays and christmas and stuff
Reply:Flowers are nice. Gifts only on special occasion such as birthday.
Reply:flowers are great, especially sunflowers! :)
Reply:A six pack will make me happy!
Reply:anything that is given as a gesture should be appreciated
Looking for fresh flowers-by-the-stem in Singapore?
Looking for a good large flower market or wholesaler in Singapore who can sell flowers by the stem or bunch (ie. NOT pre-arranged or in a bouquet / gift pacakge). All the flower stores in the main retail areas sell silk flowers by the stem, but fresh flowers only as arrangements and charge a fortune.
Can anyone recommend a large fresh flower market in Singapore where I can buy fresh flowers by the stem or by the bunch? In partiuclar, I am looking for Tuberoses (Xin Xiao / Bunga Dedap Malam), but any large flower markets would be a good start!
Thanks.
Looking for fresh flowers-by-the-stem in Singapore?
Hope that both links will satisfy your needs:
http://www.floristsearch.net/c_singapore...
http://www.business.com/search/rslt_defa...
Can anyone recommend a large fresh flower market in Singapore where I can buy fresh flowers by the stem or by the bunch? In partiuclar, I am looking for Tuberoses (Xin Xiao / Bunga Dedap Malam), but any large flower markets would be a good start!
Thanks.
Looking for fresh flowers-by-the-stem in Singapore?
Hope that both links will satisfy your needs:
http://www.floristsearch.net/c_singapore...
http://www.business.com/search/rslt_defa...
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