Wednesday, February 15, 2012

What if my ex girlfriend rejects me again what do i do ?

hi split with ex 4 weeks ago becuase of an argument at work, she got with me 3 weeks after spliiting with her bf who she was with 4 years. I treated my ex like a princess becuase i knew what she had been through with her exs. I bought her gifts flowers, chocolettes etc to make up to her and to show her that i cared for her and id do anything for her. my ex says she likes me alot and has got feelings for me but not enough to go out with me just yet. she aslo says therefore she can only give me friendship at the moment. she says she really really likes me alot and some guy at work also lied to her that am married to mess things up. people at work have been spreading alot of stuff about us causing trouble. i want to be with her cos i like her tooo much so i txt her today asking her if she would go out with me? what if she says no to me what do i do then ? she has let me down so many times and rejected me so many times but am so daft dat i still care for her and i like her what should i do

What if my ex girlfriend rejects me again what do i do ?
Give up
Reply:i think you should just give up theres always someone out there that will accept you no matter what that girl will later realize what she rejected and then shes going to be the one coming back to you then after that your the only one to decide Report It
Reply:If she knocks u bck take it like a man. Dont let this female walk all over you.
Reply:move on, meet some one else
Reply:date her sister
Reply:if u ask her and she says no again, u have 2 choices: 1, hang around and keep on asking her and she keeps on messing u about or 2, u move on with ur life. though u care for her, it doesn't seemed to be returned. tough call.
Reply:Man, I have looked at your questions. You have asked 30 of them all the same. I feel for you dude but if you obsess over her like you ask these questions she will never warm to you. Give her space dude.

Women are attracted to (in the main) secure, manly men. Insecurity is a BIG turn off to them. Give it some time and her some space...hopefully you will get back together.



Good Luck!!



xxR
Reply:move on and find someone else
Reply:I don't the people at work have anything to do with this. It's not hard to find out if someone's married or not.



What happened to you is:



a. You were the rebound guy. You absolutely cannot get together with a girl who is just out of a 4-year relationship after only 3 weeks and expect that to work. Sure it happens, but very rarely.



b. You tried WAY too hard. You were showering her with the affection you thought she wanted, but at this stage in the relationship she thought you were being really pushy and insecure, both of which are extremely undesirable traits to a woman.



Your best bet right now would be to tell her that you really like her, that you understand that you pushed too hard and are sorry for that, and that you are there for her as a friend. Then back off. If you are really someone she could be into, then the rest will take care of itself. If not, c'est la vie. Move on and find someone you ARE compatible with.


Making gifts using legos?

I thought it would be awesome to make my friend her bday gift out of legos. Any ideas? or any designs/layouts to help me through these ideas? I would also love to make a flower or a lily with legos- does anyone know how to do that?

Making gifts using legos?
I searched through the Lego web site. Here are some images of what others have built.
Reply:Make it vertical but make sure you use pieces that can be attached to the sides (front and back dimensions as well as top and bottom surfaces) and lay it flat and work on it like that: a lily would be the perfect gift for your friend; ive loved legos ever since i was a child. Good luck!
Reply:I've seen a case for a desktop computer built out of legos (or something very similar).



Relative to flowers, they'd been even worse to keep clean than the computer case.

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What is the best gift for the woman of your dreams?

I love my girl deeply. I've reached a point where I've shown ALL of my love for her emotionally. Now its time for me to prove to her how much I really do love her (with something).



Could it be something as simple as flowers? what do you think?



We've only been dating for three months lol. I know. But for those of you who have fallen for someone quickly, and deeply, know very well what im talking about.

What is the best gift for the woman of your dreams?
Anything from the heart. - really, money doesn't mean much unless it shows how hard you had to work for it.

Perhaps you could give her something that means a lot to you, and tell her to take good care of it.

You should try and write her a poem if you haven't already, don't worry so much about it being the best poem out there, its the thought and effort that she will appreciate.

You could write her a list of the many reasons you love her, or the wonderful memories you have had with her

I love the cooking idea that other's have mentioned. You could cook her dinner, or bake her cookies!!

I personally wouldn't give her flowers since it's overdone, but she may be the type of girl who would love that. (Depends on the girl.) But small random gestures like that, for no reason at all are very nice. The little things add up. Just picking up her favorite candy bar for her or something when you're out goes a long way.

Things like calling her every night to wish her sweet dreams. If she's sick take care of her.

Little gestures like kissing the top of her head, or her forehead, or nose, or even taking her hand and kissing her fingers show that you care.



I strongly suggest you check out this site.



http://www.lovingyou.com/content/ideas/l...



Good luck.
Reply:most of the time a woman dosent always want gifts just tell her how u feel and that should be enough dimonds and perls dosent tell someone u love or have feelings for them for a person to belive it u have to say it
Reply:LOVE
Reply:something personal or diamonds , flowers, chocolates, card, massages, some kind of animal

mixed cd is cool too



Better yet make it an experience, she will never forget that, do something together that makes her happy and you 2 will remember forever



Always make it something unique and memorable, even a little thing
Reply:I personally believe that it's the little things that mean the most. Flowers, cards, corny mixed cds, etc. If your girl is as special as you say she is, materialist shouldn't be that important. It's your thoughtfulness that she should appreciate.
Reply:You don't have to go all out. You don't have to spend a lot of money on something expensive.



If you love the girl, the perfect gift idea will come to you. Think about what you know about her, what you two do together, and her reactions to things. If she loves flowers, buy her some flowers. If she loves cake, bake her a special cake. Hell, if she loves filet mignon, go cook her up some of that.



Whatever you do, she'll appreciate it. Just let her know you're doing it because you love her, not because you expect anything in return.
Reply:Diamonds



really


Who sends "I am sorry" Balloons in the DFW Metro?

Ha ha I fudge up with my girl and I need something other than flowers, gift sets..



I was thinking Giant Balloons...



But I am open for suggestions!

Who sends "I am sorry" Balloons in the DFW Metro?
Chocolate... the good stuff not from the dicount store...

Make a cd of love... sorry songs

Get her something... that she asking for

Give her a gift certificate for massage or facial or pedicure

or How about write her a poem
Reply:lets see, giant balloons work, but be sure you tell her how you feel as well, maybe write out your feelings to her and attach the letter to a balloon. You said you didnt want flowers, but if you had flowers delivered with a note that would be really sweet. Good Luck! :)


Please help me. I need some good ideas for Mother's Day gifts!?

I;m not talking flowers or jewelry, but where I can find things and companies who make photo collages, nice frames that have MOM on them and can hold several pictures (more than 7), BIO DVDs, heritage stuff. I'm really looking for my grandmom who has 6 kids, and lot of grandchildren, but she is pretty young (in her 50s).



Help!

Please help me. I need some good ideas for Mother's Day gifts!?
you can make a scrap book with old pictures from your grandmother past childhood to present day along with pictures of her grandchildren and the different stages in their lives growing up.
Reply:I know several department stores carry photo collages but to get one with MOM on, you'll probably have to ask at a specialty photographic equipment shop, like Black's, Henry's or Japan Camera. It's easiest to call and ask first, rather than drive all around. You might possibly find one at a Hallmark store, too. If you have a bit of money to spend, you can take your pictures to a graphic artist who can scan them and put together a collage on a single sheet but get a definite price quote first.



You can get an inexpensive book from Coles/Chapters that has pages for you to fill in about your life, your ancestry, your marriage details, etc. I think it's called "Family Album" or "Family Legacy" and costs about $8.00.



But don't forget the flowers, too!!!!
Reply:This may sound silly, but look at your local hospital's gift shop. Everytime I am in one I think.. Wow this place has the greatest gifts for everyone.
Reply:mothers are very kind

you can make them happy even with a smile.

why don't you kiss her and say HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!
Reply:Wal-mart photo lab has a lot of different things that can be done with photos and some great ideas. Try going there and talking with some one and explain what you would like to do. If they can't help you they should be able to tell you where to go. Good luck.
Reply:1. Coffee Mug with your picture on it

2. Picture Frame

3. Toaster

4. Shirt

5. Purse

6. Gift Card
Reply:redenvelope.com The story of a lifetime. It is a scrapbook/memory book that she can put together. I got one for my mother - she LOVES it!


Help - Am I in a controlling, abusive relationship?! Please advise me...?

I met this guy a year ago, and he seemed so lovely and bought me flowers, gifts etc. Was so loving and I fell for him and we got together... Now he has changed.

I was warned about him when I first got with him, but I thought he seemed genuine. His ex who my sister in law happened to know, told my at the time best mate that it was the worst relationship she had ever been in - told her what to do, what to wear, etc. I didn't believe her, just thought it was her, but now...

Some of the things he does, like he lies a lot, makes things up like what he's supposedly done in his life, lies about so much that he believes it. He has at times tried to tell me not to show my cleavage. He loses his temper so quick and starts over nothing and blames it on me. I was 5min late for dinner once and he started on me even though it weren't my fault. Get's jealous over my guy mates, will get angry if I don't pick up my phone... I once slapped him cos he upset me so much and I felt he was constantly...

Help - Am I in a controlling, abusive relationship?! Please advise me...?
OMG! You are suck a classic abused woman it is scary!!

First ask yourself is this "normal" If you answer yes then run don't walk to the nearest psych ward and check yourself in.

This guy is dirt and he is playing this wicked and hurtful game with you. DO NOT ALLOW IT!! You are strong beautiful and awesome girl and deserve so much more then this. Your friends and family are probably thinking you are an idiot, prove them wrong! This guy calls you back tell him you are no longer interested and please do not contact me anymore. Remember he has you in a psychological strong hold so you are vulnerable.... BE STRONG GIRL!!!

I am rooting for you!!!
Reply:OMG pleae get out of that realtionship. Its not good for you. You are even doubting yourself. You need to get out and get out now before he hurts you even worse.
Reply:get a gun.
Reply:maybe you do need this break you should write to him to let him know how you feel towards this let him realize what he has and what he's going to lose if he keeps it up...

but the real questions are.. do you truly love him, and is his temper and jealous worth putting up with..

in the mean time make sure some one knows about this in case it gets worse..
Reply:I was reading about "battered woman" last night. All the things you said are described in that article I read. Battered woman is someone who does not leave a relationship because she thinks it's her fault and she deserved the abuse as punishment. And you do not want to be a battered woman! Seriously.. I think you are an intelligent girl.. Please leave the relationship.. Change your phone number.. Stay with family and do not leave the house alone.. Always take someone with you until everything cools off. Good Luck :)
Reply:I don't get it...it sounds like you are saying you already ended it...so just don't go back to him. If you are afraid of what he will do now that you have broken up with him...let your friends and family know your situation and make sure you aren't alone for awhile. No one deserves to be in a relationship like that...take some time to get to know yourself and what you want and then you will be ready to start a relationship with someone who treats you with respect.

racing shoes

How Should Do You Ask A girl out? Simple? Complicated?

how should i ask this girl out? do woman like it simple, eg..just ask' will you be my girlfriend?'randomly out of no where,,, or complicated eg... flowers, gift at a special place/event?

well how would u want to be ask out?



well the girl im trying to ask out is 23 , if that helps

How Should Do You Ask A girl out? Simple? Complicated?
Well I am very happy that you have someone special on your mind. All girls are diffrent but something such as a gift (for me) would be a little much, unless you have known them for a while. I suggest something simple and sweet. "Will you be my girlfriend" no offense seems kindof sad unless your in highschool. Just tell her what you think of her. "(her name here) I was wanting to know if you would like to have dinner with me sometime. Let her know it doesnt have to be a date. Start slow. Alot of relationships that start fast end fast too. Remember slow is okay. After dinner (if all goes well) ask if you may see her again. Gentlemen always get better results but dont be a total softy. Open doors and be nice. If it doesnt work out then she wasnt right for you. Any woman will respect a true gentelmen oh and dont try to lean in for a kiss at the end of the night. ask her. she may not want to and if she doesnt let her know its okay and you understand. I promise she will respect you asking.
Reply:If the lady you're being infatuated with, likes you well then ask her out to lunch or to have coffee with her. If she accepts your offer, then go out with her, if you and her enjoyed going out together, the next level is asking her out on dates. Present her with flowers and or candy. It's not such an complicated situation, sometimes it takes patience and understanding. Then someday hopefully you would want her for your girlfriend.
Reply:Do not say yo we are an item.



Just ask for a date. I got tickets to a movie, it is "Blah blah title" I'd like to go with you.



Or to an amusement park or heck just for ice cream, coffee or whatever.



But do not go down the let's be an item route.



too many girls nowadays don't want to be Tied Down to A Guy. Weird. I grew up in the days of people being together.
Reply:well,,just feel the girl's attitude..when you think that she's a simple girl then ask here to go out with you in a simple way,,i think it will not depend on how to ask a girl but the way you're doing the conversation when she's with you...
Reply:just ask her. girls hate it when they really like a guy and a guy doesn't ask them out. the girl will never ask the guy out, so if you want to be her boyfriend ask her.
Reply:JUST BE YOUR SELF. DONT TRY TO BE SOME ONE ELSE IT NEVER WORKS. IF YOU ALREADY TALK ITS BECAUSE SHE LIKES YOU AND YOUR NOT SOME STRANGER. TRY IT GOOD LUCK.
Reply:Hey dude if the girl loves you she will give u clear cut signal.

which you may find out easily being with her.

once you are confident that she likes you.

ask her friendly for going out or for movie.

Now I should not tell you what u have 2 do furher



All the best


Gifts for bridal shower host?

Hi there everyone!

My bridal shower is coming up in about one month. Two of my aunts are hosting my bridal shower. They, in addition to my uncles (their husbands), are making the flower arrangements for the wedding as well as my wedding cake! I have NO idea what to do for them. Should I bring them a gift on the day of the shower? And then another after the wedding (along w/ their thank you card)? I am on a very VERY tight budget but I want to do something for them... What about my uncles (which I'm pretty sure are not really doing the "put together" stuff but rather supporting their wives who are doing this for me)? Thanks for the suggestions!

Gifts for bridal shower host?
Wow you are really a lucky girl to have so many people helping to make your wedding your most memorable day! I would have to agree with one honey. Since you are on a tight budget, I think that instead of getting them a gift now to say thank you, just give them a special thank you card and let them know in that card that when you get back from your honey moon, or as soon as you two settle in, you would like to have them over for dinner. A formal dinner as a thank you for there generosity and help in making your day so special. Give them a special night, after all is said and done. I am sure they would love this, at least I would. Good luck, Congratulations and God Bless!
Reply:It would be good to give one present for the shower and another small thank you gift after the wedding. Since you are on a budget, I suggest finding a couple of easy DIY projects. A simple picture frame with a thank you note inside is affordable and cute. To include the uncles after the wedding you could make them a "movie night basket" These are usually easy to put together and not too pricey. Find a large inexpensive bowl (check Target or Wal-mart) put in some microwave popcorn, blockbuster gift card, and maybe an inexpensive throw.

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Reply:How about a massage gift card (not sure where you are from, but in Phoenix we have a chain of massage places). They (especially the aunts) will love a day of pampering. Set up a couples massage, facial, nail appointment, etc. For the men, get them monogrammed flasks or cigar accessories if they wouldn't be into the massage/day of relaxation.
Reply:A thank you note is a must. A gift from your heart might be the perfect gift. I would suggest you invite them to your home for a home cooked brunch, lunch or dinner as a thank you. Your entertainment for the evening, looking at pictures or the wedding video. On your wedding day have your photographer take a picture with you and these special aunts. Then choose a nice picture and have a copy made for them. This may be the most appreciated gift you could give them. Should be able to fit into your budget.

Congrats and good luck.
Reply:My sister did little potted flowers for her shower hosts. Its a little something sweet, but well within any budget.



I have to travel (on planes) for my showers... my cutest idea thus far is a ceramic bread pan + bread mix (and the recipe for my grandmother's nut bread).



Make sure you acknowledge their help at the wedding (or rehearsal dinner speeches) (not sure which)
Reply:Do a 2 part gift!!! For the shower, give them a photo frame. For the wedding, give them a picture from the shower for the frame. By the way, Congrats!!!!!
Reply:the gifts for the shower would be just fine
Reply:books


How do you overcome hurt in a marriage, and keep it from becoming a toxic resentment from your spouse?

We got married a little early, ok maybe alot early. We engaged after 3 months, and married in 10 months. She was fresh out of a divorce, like 1 month. I was cocky and confident, and her Ex husband seemed to have moved on with his new bride to be. He married later about 5 months before we did, but then only 1 month after we had been married, he sends his new wife packing, and desperately attempts to get my new bride back! Flowers, gifts, CD's, movies, phone calls, and then phone cards to not track his phone calls to her. I know it's her responsibility, and all she has ever given me was excuses. Well later this relationship her and her Ex had formed had all but dissolved into an ugly pile just liek the marriage. Her and I were back on track, and then I discover her and a friend relaying a secret emotional affair through Myspace over and ex boyfriend she was seeing at the end of her marriage with her ex husband. She has 2 children with one dad who is an @ss bag, and 1 from another @ssbag.

How do you overcome hurt in a marriage, and keep it from becoming a toxic resentment from your spouse?
It's extremely hard to rebuild trust once it is broken. She would have to be an open book, her MySpace password, email passwords, cell phone, EVERYTHING an open book until you felt you could trust her again and that takes a LONG time. Personally, because of how many times she's played these games on you, I would have a hard time EVER trusting her again. I'd probably, ultimately have to leave. If you decide to stay, you have to leave it all behind you. You will NEVER forget it, but there's a good reason for that. It's the same reason our brains never let us forget a stove eye is hot the FIRST time we touch it and find out it's not a good idea. Anyway, "He that has nothing to hide, hides nothing", so if she really loves you and wants it to work out, why would she need to hide everything? Saying you caused her "emotional affair" by tracking her is called "avoiding responsibility", and until she admits, realizes and accepts responsibility for her own actions, she is doomed to repeat the same mistakes. I think you're very Nobel for considering staying in this. Now you have to let it go, and letting it go means you cannot keep bringing it up. I would make her attend counseling with me, though, if it were me, because something tells me, this is not over yet. She needs to mature to a place that she turns inwards towards her partner during hard times, and not to other people. A good indicator of future behavior is repetitive past behavior. Keep that in mind.
Reply:I have forgiven my husband for his affair, but I will never, ever forget what he did to me, and the pain I went through. I chose to stay, and we went to marriage counseling which helped immensely, but it takes time to get over it. My husband works with the woman he had the affair with, and I have to drive by the place on my way to work every morning. I would get a knot in my stomach everytime I passed it. Even the mention of the name of the town where she lives would upset me. Any time I heard someone say her name--not talking about her, but anyone with the same name--I would get upset.



I has taken about 8 months, and I fully trust my husband. I am still getting over all of the above, but it gets a little less and less every day.



You said you were working it out, but didn't say if you were seeing a counselor. If not, I highly recommend it. I don't think I would have gotten over this as quickly if we hadn't. If you're wife won't go, then go by yourself. A professional can help you way better than us lay-people on yahoo answers.
Reply:WWW.MARRIAGEFITNESS.COM is a good place to start. It is a great site that will be very helpful in helping both of you.



But here is the even bigger question, can you get over it and trust her? If not then no, this will never work. If you will throw it in her face everytime something bad happens, then you can not make this work.



My biggest suggestion is counseling. Not just marriage counseling either. Both of you need individual counseling to help you get over what has happened to both of you, if you choose to try and make the marriage work. Seperate and together you both need to deal with the issues.



Most likely she was feeling "torn" in the beginning as she was fresh out of divorce. Divorce is like death, you need to grieve it. She was not given ample time to grieve. To get thru the hurt. Instead she found you, and temporarily you put a band aid on it, and then the band aid quit working. Support her in dealing with the issues the best you can, and get help too.



Don't throw in the towel, if you still love her, you can get past this with help!
Reply:there is always counseling .. but to get total trust back sit down and talk openly with her ..tell her exactly how you feel .. tell her if she wants you to trust her shes going to have to do her part ... she should want to give you her passwords to her email or any accounts she has online ..or close them and open up one with you ... nothing should be hiden from either of you ... you should be able to answer each others cell phone etc... good luck .
Reply:Seek steady marital counselling immediately. Commit to at least a year of it if you want to see lasting, important changes.



Tell her it is a condition of staying together. If she refuses, you have her answer about her commitment to you.



I am grieved to hear she has three children and you will be forever linked with these men because of it. What's worse is her irresponsibility toward protecting her current relationship with you, because she is teaching her children that commitment means nothing and Mommie's happiness depends on her feelings of the moment.



You sound like a pretty good guy who was a little naive when it comes to relationships and timing. Even though I think you may feel like you got in over your head with this marriage, some intense counselling can salvage and improve things for all concerned.



Very best of luck to you and your family. It looks like YOU are going to have to stand up and be the hero here.
Reply:1) You should have whipped her ex-husbands a ss the second he start contacting YOUR wife. Your failure to do so made you look weak in front of her and is the reason why she isn't showing you proper respect.



2) Buying stuff is NEVER the answer to gain a woman's respect, in fact, it does just the opposite as they begin to see you as a weak fool to be taken advantage of



3) After all of this, the second you caught her online mesisng around with other men, you should have thrown her out of the house! Again, you are being weak and she is taking advantage of it



I suggest you get some software to record what she is/was doing online and get a divorce lawyer before the women bleeds you completely dry!
Reply:Ok, I've seen this kinda situation happen with a few friends before. Someones marriage breaks up, they meet someone new and fall in love etc...and then here comes the ex...to make trouble!!! I think your wife is scared and hasn't fully let go of the past and her ex is taking advantage of this. It wouldn't work out for them now, but he knows how to push her buttons since they were married before. If this is going to work out with between the two of you, she will need to have better boundaries in general with other men. As for the emotional affair, better boundaries would help, but I think she needed someone to talk to and got too close to the Myspace guy.

As for yourself, you've been very hurt by all of this and are having trouble trusting and getting past what's happened. I think what your feeling in the way of resentment is very normal. You've been through a lot. I hope you can get over what's happened and your wife can stay on the right track with you because your the one who really loves her. If and when your ready, tell her that your the one who really loves her, the other guys are in the past and your her future. Good luck.


Am I victimizing myself? I moved to the us for the first time 8 months ago from Eastern Europe.....?

My family never had a lot of money, we never had a car so nobody in my family could drive.In 2oo6,after graduating from high school,I got engaged and moved out a few weeks before having to start college.Got married and that brought me to the US(spring,last year).Things are falling apart for me though since my husband tells me I am too dependent on him(I am 20)and that turns him off all the time.I only got my driver's permit, I am a bit scared to drive,I had a job, but quit because of emotional instability,all our problems would make me cry every day.Our intimacy level is very low,haven't made love in 4 months.He just puts it all on this whole dependence thing.on the flip side,he watches porn,flirts online with women or gay men,would much rather look at cars and motorcycles instead of spending any time with me :( I've got no self confidence left.He buys me flowers,gifts, perfumes.. there's just nothing physical between us.Plus I was a virgin when we met.Isn't that ironic!?

Am I victimizing myself? I moved to the us for the first time 8 months ago from Eastern Europe.....?
Which country in Eastern Europe did you come from? Is your husband from there too?
Reply:I think you are victimizing yourself



Your husband just wants you to stop acting like a KID, and

grow up



Get a job or go to college if he can afford it,



GIVE the man sex at least everyother DAy,

BJ's men love those more than sex



get a life, DON"T live for HIM, live for you



COOK AND CLEAN the house,

that is what MANY husbands like



M
Reply:Your husband sounds like the man I married at 19, someone who was never into sex (although he was handsome and only 22 himself). I always suspected he was gay. Some men are just not wired right in the brain and prefer porn to a real woman, but if he's talking with gay guys online that's a huge indication that he's gay himself. Any decent guy who loved you would be there for you to guide you into life in this country and would love to help you! You do NOT need to put up with his emotional abuse/absence. Leave him and find a real man who is straight and will love you like you deserve to be loved!
Reply:you should pick yur inner strenght and go out there with confidence and not rely on your other half too much.

try to make friends by going to gym / group activities.

try keeping yourself fit and looking good .



wish you luck
Reply:Maybe you're not doing anything to help yourself to survive. Maybe he is feeling the same thing too.
Reply:He is no good SOB I suggest you going back home to your family for a while and see how he reacts being single again.

beauty

Extraordinary cheap mother day gifts that arent same old, same old?

i don't want to give the same things- you know- cards, flowers, chocolate, jewelry- i want something really really great that a teenager can afford.



1) what stores are good?

2) what should i get her for a present?

3) what should i do for her (breakfast, day stuff, etc.)



thanks sooooooooooo much!! =]] websites appreciated!

Extraordinary cheap mother day gifts that arent same old, same old?
A few years ago my son made me a slideshow of family pictures and put music behind it and burnt it down on a disc for me. I cried my EYES out. Totally blessed my heart. Pictures of me and him as he was growing up that he already had and he used songs in the background that I used to sing to him when he was small. Cost him nothing but the blank cd and his time - but it means the world to me. He made me a card and gave me a bouquet of flowers and cooked me dinner. Ahhhhhhhhhh. In the end it's the thought and the love behind it that counts.
Reply:Nice handmade portraits or paintings made from photos are always a good gift idea. You can find more such ideas at http://www.paintyourlife.com

They make all types of personalized and unique portraits on oil, pencil, charcoal or on canvas.

They also do wonderful photo-printing on canvas in different designs. Please take a look at http://www.photo-print-on-canvas.com for more information.
Reply:A better daughter.


Valentine's day is right around the corner. Can anyone suggest gifts for HIM (25-35) under $50?

I am trying to stay away from the typical "picture of the two of us", chocolates, flowers, balloons or lingerie. Thank you much!

Valentine's day is right around the corner. Can anyone suggest gifts for HIM (25-35) under $50?
Condoms.
Reply:*Tickets to a sporting event, comedian, concert, etc.

*Burnt cd with songs significant to the 2 of you and a home-cooked meal or baked dessert

*Magazine subscriptions (Sports illustrated, maxim, Travel %26amp; Leisure)

*Boxed set of good tv series you 2 can watch together from the beginning (Grey's Anatomy, Sopranoes, etc.)
Reply:Movie tickets and Home Depot gift card
Reply:How about dinner and a movie?

One of those movies that you would never go see, if it were not Valentines day. Like Sci-fi or something.



My ex always wanted me to take him to 'Hooters', because #1 'the wings were the best' ........yeah, OK?!

and #2 the guys would never believe it.

what you want to do is make memories, things that he will brag to his friends about. things that will always remind him of what an awesome girlfriend he has.

or maybe tickets to a wrestling match, like I said soething that you would not normaly do.

just a suggestion......I dunno?
Reply:Tickets to an event that he likes. A romantic dinner either one you made for him or picked up from his favorite place you don't necessarily have to go out. Romantic is a candle light dinner at the house if you want. then a walk along the water front if you live near one.
Reply:I'll come back later to read the guys answers, because I know what they'll say they all want.

How about a card and tickets to a sports event?
Reply:you in a whip cream bikini
Reply:Video of yourself in last year's lingerie doing only what you're comfortable with being on film. At 25-35, I guarantee he will love it, or your relationship is in trouble.

Edit- Why is it women ask men what guys think or want and when you give them the truth they don't want to hear it? She asked what she should get him, I'm just saying what he would want. Maybe I should have said "Watch Sleepless in Seattle with him on the couch and he will love it!" Who's the gift for anyway, him or her?
Reply:Buy him a book on a favorite topic, a bag of coffee he loves, make genuine homemade chocolate chip cookies(not premade-you-bake) to go with the coffee and give him a coupon book (you make it what you want... a coupon or two of backrubs or whatever, a couple good for an hour without "yammering on or complaining about_____", a few for a night out with the guys with no complaints... whatever you think he'd appreciate)


How do I get my wife and daughter to stop crying? I'm hungry and I need to eat.?

My wife and I adopted our daughter when she was 1 month old. She grew up, moved away and got married. Her biological mother contacted her and wanted to meet with her. She told my wife and I that she was going to meet with her mother. So today she shows up at our place with flowers, gifts, and a Mother's Day card and she told my wife that she heard her mother wanted to see her and she asked my wife what did she want to see her about? They started crying and hugging and I said I'll take us out to eat and that made them cry even more and my daughter keeps saying Daddy you're so wonderful. I'm hungry and I need to eat and feed my girls. How do I get them to go out to eat?? And now I think I have allergies because my eyes got all watery and they didn't water like that before my daughter got here.

How do I get my wife and daughter to stop crying? I'm hungry and I need to eat.?
It's not allergys my man it's the emotions that are trying to come out. So give in to the emotions this once and feel good about it. Also just tell them to get ready to go eat.
Reply:Oh come on, man, just get a can o' soup out of the cupboard and heat it up. Give 'em each a cup of soup and let 'em do their mother/daughter thing. They'll eventually realize they haven't had dinner yet and then you can take 'em both out. Hey, you can have a cup of soup too while you wait.
Reply:WOW man I Know your hungry but HOW often does this happen..and one day when your daughter becomes a woman..you will miss that OHH DADDY YOU ARE SO WONDERFUL%26gt;..because it gets less and less...



so dry the eyes and say okay my beautiful girls LETS GO EAT!!!
Reply:I think that allergy you've got is a good one. I think it's called "Touchedmyheartis". You may have to wait about a little while to eat, but it's worth it, right?. ;-)
Reply:Order a takeaway.
Reply:awww thats so sweet ya'll just one emotional family men just sometimes hold back their tears and it is ok to cry. Good men always cry
Reply:That's good stuff. Happy Mother's Day.
Reply:Tell them to relax and you are going to pick up carryout. You are a great dad and husband!
Reply:Give them time to clam down, then go eat


Help - Am I in a controlling, abusive relationship?! Please advise me...?

I met this guy a year ago, and he seemed so lovely and bought me flowers, gifts etc. Was so loving and I fell for him and we got together... Now he has changed.

I was warned about him when I first got with him, but I thought he seemed genuine. His ex who my sister in law happened to know, told my at the time best mate that it was the worst relationship she had ever been in - told her what to do, what to wear, etc. I didn't believe her, just thought it was her, but now...

Some of the things he does, like he lies a lot, makes things up like what he's supposedly done in his life, lies about so much that he believes it. He has at times tried to tell me not to show my cleavage. He loses his temper so quick and starts over nothing and blames it on me. I was 5min late for dinner once and he started on me even though it weren't my fault. Get's jealous over my guy mates, will get angry if I don't pick up my phone... I once slapped him cos he upset me so much and I felt he was constantly...

Help - Am I in a controlling, abusive relationship?! Please advise me...?
My god! I couldnt believe it when i read that, i have been in the exact same situation, im actually wondering if its the same man? And my advice to you is to get out, NOW. dont try and talk to him, he is unreasonable and wont listen to anything you try to say, and it will all be your fault anyway. The man i was with turned me from a strong, confident independant woman, into a snivelling needy wretch, and that is exactly what he wanted to do, and that is what your man wants you to become, and why? Because he is so insecure that he wants to turn you into a clingy submissive needy wretch cos thats what he needs to make him feel good about himself. Oh i remember sobbing on the phone, begging for forgiveness for stuff i hadnt even done, stuff that he had twisted and made up and everything was always my fault. He constantly put me down, would talk about other women, my friends included in a sexual manner, critisise what i wore, oh i could go on all day. And he made stuff up about himself, told lies about himself, and thats because he felt he was nothing, so needed to make out he was something that he wasnt, just like your man does. Then i ended it, almost 4 years ago now, and the mental scars are still there, but they are slowly fading. Please get out of this relationship, its no good, its not healthy and he is mentally torturing you.



Good luck!
Reply:You are in a very unhealthy and abusive relationship. It may not be a physical but it is an emotional one. I truly understand how you felt because I went through that kind of relationship to. It cost me to lose my parent's trust in me and my friends turn their back on me. So where you at now, break off with him before he breaks off with you with a smile of triumph on his lips because he gets away with his lies, he controls you at his whims and with a snap of a finger, he gets what he wants. And also he thinks he is the best damn thing in this world when in actual fact he is nothing but a class- A jerk and a a** wipe. Trust me once you get out of it, you will feel much better and wiser and definitely stronger.
Reply:I was in a similar relationship once. Leaving him and completely cutting him off was the best decision I ever made. It may seem hard now but later you'll think "Why didn't I leave sooner" Just completely put him out of your mind and move on.
Reply:Where do you go? To a trusted family member or friend.

What do you do? LEAVE him! It will only get worse. It will be hard, and he will most likely try to make you feel guilty but it's for the better.

good luck!
Reply:I would say no matter how much you might want to do not get back together with this man he sounds like a short tempered control freak. Stay away from him and if he tries to contact you ignore it but if he touches you again I would say get a restraining order you might miss him but no man is worth that kinda pain.
Reply:.....you ARE in an ABUSIVE relationship my dear...... no doubt about it honestly!.....so get out of it and then stay out of it.....completely....agreed?

....Then go see your local mental health professional and find out what's going on with YOU that makes YOU wanna stay with a manipulator like this guy sweetie....k?
Reply:You need someone who doesn't care about you to help you sort your feelings. That way you can know that what they say is the truth and not just emotional. That is why people go to counselors like preachers and teachers and psychiatrists and psychologists. It isn't weird and it doesn't make you nutty to ask for help when you need it. Like I've told others before, everyone needs a plumber sometimes, what's the difference in getting help with relationships?

Anytime a relationship gets physical like hitting, slapping, shoving or bruising, it is a danger signal. You know the answer to your questions. Just do what you have to do and get away from him. Don't do anything to bring yourself down, just walk away and then if you need protection because you are scared of him call the police or the hospital or look in the yellow pages for a hotline about violence towards women.

Be brave and run away from this menace.
Reply:HELLO.........yes this is abuse any time someone belittles you it is abuse there are different kinds of abuse physical abuse verbal abuse %26amp; emotinal abuse abuse is abuse ......you need to get out now %26amp; for god sake don't have a child with this man

baffin slippers

So I work with this girl.......?

I've had a thing for this girl that I work with for a while, and finally this summer we went out. Our first date I brought her out flyfishing on a trout stream, we had a beautiful time, and nothing romantic happened. After this, we exchanged some heavy e-mails and went out a few times for dinner, but nothing happened because we are both too busy for a relationship. Then I sent an e-mail telling her I wanted to be more than freinds, and she told me that she has been weighing her options and has no time for a relationship. Now she is kind of distant with me at work. Neither of us has the time, I play in a band and go to school and work full-time, and she is a ballet instructor/dancer, but I have to see her every day at work and she's too darn cute for me to ignore....it's driving me crazy and I don't know what to do. Should I try to send her flowers/gifts and let her know that some day when we have more time I want to hook up, or just forget about her? I may have to quit my job..

So I work with this girl.......?
well i think u need to choose what u want.... cause if u are willing to give things up for her go for it.... like its always good to get the girl u love
Reply:And that's why you shouldn't date people you have a lot of contact with at work!

What are you going to do, harass her? You'll get fired before you can quit.

Forget about her; she probably has herpes or something.


10 commandments for men?

Men just don't get it. I am pissed at my husband, it would be a long story, if I told you. Women........do you have anything to add to this? ( Mens comments will be ignored at this time, may be taken into consideration at another time, but thank you for your time)



When a Woman is Pissed Off.



!. Do Not laugh at her, not even a little chuckle.....that will make it 10 times worst.



2. Do Not ....."Do nothing to improve the situation" .......that will make it another 10 times worst.



3. Do Not....go about your merry way and pretend nothing is wrong, because there is.......that will make it another 10 times worst.



4. Do Not blame it on P.M.S., mood disorders, etc.



5. Flowers, gifts, etc. are very nice, but they do not solve anything!

10 commandments for men?
Do not give the silent treatment--it only pisses me off more!
Reply:Your soooo special. You sound like you so absolutely deserve the way he responds to you. I feel sorry for your husband, and no, I am not a woman, thank God! When a woman is pissed off, it is usually a sadistic attempt to control the behavior of their partner (supposedly significant other). Don't blame him for your dissatisfaction with your relationship, better to look in the mirror. You sound like a real asshole.
Reply:how about this suggestion...





don't blame all men because your husband pi**ed u off, u married him, not us; u live with your mistake, we don't need 2 hear about it or be falsely accused/convicted of it.



u like discussing ur commandments...how about re-reading the 9th Commandment and trying a little harder to follow it...u know, the 9th Commandment from the Bible...the one not for just men, not for just women, but for all.



not all men r ur husband, don't treat us that way.



good luck and GOD bless.
Reply:Can you help me with this 10 commandments for women?



1. Stop being pissed off all of the time.



How often are you pissed off that you are trying to make a list about how he shouldn't react at those times? Seek counseling.



fs
Reply:Do not act... "it is small stuff, don't swaer the small stuffs...", he forgot already and you still upset... because it is not small stuff...
Reply:Don't act like its OUR fault that they are @@sholes!! My husband loves to get angry with me after he's done something to piss me off and make me upset with him which makes zero sense.
Reply:10. Buy chocolate candies for wife and hide mydol or prozak inside.
Reply:do not pick up that dame remote control and start clicking away like your in a race with someone.
Reply:There should be only one commandment.



Thou shall not get married!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:S%26amp;H
Reply:This is why we keep some some on the side.
Reply:While this will be ignored for now here is one mans response.



!. Do Not laugh at her, not even a little chuckle.....that will make it 10 times worst.

"Any thinking man would not do this however if we do it is because we have no clue as to why you are mad. We may not think it's funny but that response is in self defense"



2. Do Not ....."Do nothing to improve the situation" .......that will make it another 10 times worst.

"Often most men have no idea how to make it better. We can do as we are told or as you want even though it may be against what we want and more often than not this does not work the other way. So we may choose nothing."



3. Do Not....go about your merry way and pretend nothing is wrong, because there is.......that will make it another 10 times worst.

"Going about our merry way is an attempt to not have to deal with something we have no clue about how to fix. You may tell us...you may have told us 100 times but what we hear and what you say are two different things."



4. Do Not blame it on P.M.S., mood disorders, etc.

" A thinking man would never resort to this. This is especially true if he has been married for very long. If he does it is a weak attempt to put the problem back on you."



5. Flowers, gifts, etc. are very nice, but they do not solve anything!

"The only thing that men can do at times, given they have no idea why you feel as you do, is to try to make amends in the old fashion way. It worked while you were going together so why not now? Of course it solves nothing without communication between both of you."



If when you tell him he does not hear or when you tell him it sounds like an attack then nothing will ever be resolved. These issues need be resolved while talking when you are not mad.


Is my friend being scammed?

My friend has been talking to this man from Europe for a couple months via messenger/phone/e-mail. He has sent her flowers, gifts, and said he is coming to visit soon. Everything was going good, until he had a business trip to Africa and his laptop was stolen. He then asked if she would provide money and or a new laptop for a conference he was there attending. He told her he couldn't find any "adequate" laptops to buy, but I find that hard to believe. My friend is still having trouble deciding how to approach it, because she's fallen in love with him and thought his feelings were the same. Any suggestions to what she can say or do to prove he's legit.

Is my friend being scammed?
I think she is being scammed. There are plenty of on line locations and outsourcing for computers. Tell her to be careful and that she would be happy to buy him a computer and even ship it to him if he were to provide the money. Once she gets the check, take it to a bank and either deposit it, or call the bank the check was written on and ask if funds are available. That seems to put the proof in the pudding. Why should she have to fork out money for something she will never use? Use caution and common sense.....if it is too good to be true, it isn't.
Reply:if this SO CALLED MAN really and truly was in to your friend,HE would find a way to get HIS own laptop,do they not have libraries or computer cafes where he comes from, that he can comunicate with your friend-you know "his so called true love" sounds like a typical man with a scam to me,if he quit sending all these flowers and gifts(did they even cost much?)he might beable to save enough money to get his own laptop-if he had one to start with,maybe he was using someone elses laptop.im sure he could find an "adequate"laptop where he's from,but to ask your friend to buy him one after such a very short time,and never meeting in person, and getting to know each other only makes him an "inadequate man"
Reply:She is being scammed, definatly. One, right when he was going to go meet her "he went on a business trip to Africa and his laptop got stolen." In my opinion, that's a bunch of crap. Two, he wants her to buy a laptop for him.
Reply:yes its a scam or scam him back, tell your friend that she doesnt have money for something and ask if this man can send her money!
Reply:Oh yea!!! She is definately being scammed. It sounds like one of those stories you see on MSNBC anout those scammers. He has probably been buttering her up all this time with his smooth talk. And you also have to ask yourself, "How many other women has he done this to?" If I were you, tell your friend to tell him that she can't afford to send him money or a laptop. If he stops talking to her than it is a scam.
Reply:i would say yes
Reply:ummm if anything don't give more than you received
Reply:Are you kidding me? OF COURSE SHE'S BEING SCAMMED!!!! She's fallen in love with him? How can that be if she's never met him and it's only been a couple of months? She's fallen in love with the idea of him because he was wooing her with flowers and gifts to get on her good side which he's obviously done. It may hurt her now to walk away but she'll be hurting a lot more when he screws her out of a bunch of money. Tell her to cut off all correspondence with this loser and move on!
Reply:if it were me and I truly loved him and know with out a any question he loved me . I might , MIGHT send him the money . But my advice is to have her tell him well if you are have so much trouble finding a laptop there why don't you send me the money and I'll buy you one and send it too you or if she is comfortable with spending her money for him a laptop than i would tell him how about i buy one here and mail it to you. that way she isn't just giving him money to go use on something other than a laptop and chances are if he doesn't like the idea about her buying and sending to him than more than like there is a not so good reason for that. and i wouldn't send him any money i would just tell him thats a lot of money she doesn't have and she really wishes she good help but she cant. or that its not that she doesn't trust him she would just feel more comfortable sending him a laptop with his money or hers. i hope i helped tell your friend good luck


When is your wedding date set , and what is your wedding budget ?

Our wedding date is set for February 16 2008 . We've spent a total of $25,000 . All we have to buy now are the gifts and the favors and the flower girls dress :)

When is your wedding date set , and what is your wedding budget ?
My wedding date is in November 2008 , we're not sure on the exact date yet because we can't decide on a venue...





Our budget is $38,000... we might not use all of it, but its there if we need it





My fiance and i have saved a lot of money , we can spend it any which way we please , and just for your information i do donate money every month $100 to be exact - to the RSPCA to help animals . and on top of that i have 3 kids to look after which is where most of my money goes to . We're paying off our house at the moment , and if we have the money to spend , why not enjoy ourselves ..
Reply:Aug 30,2008.... $15,000... think i might come in under... outdoor weddings cost a little less so that is nice!!
Reply:wedding date is set for Nov. 16, 2007


and the budget is less than $1000. We're not rich and only one of us is working. So we're only spending money on bridal gown, marriage license, ceremony, dinner. It'd be nice to have more but that's all we can afford
Reply:I'm getting Married in 11 days, Oct. 20th, and we've spent approx. 20-25,000. I need to figure that out sometime. Congrats on your Wedding.


I marry my sweetie in less than 2 weeks!!!! WooooooHooooo!!!!!!!
Reply:5/23/09 and $5000 and planning on doing some stuff myself... I couldn't imagine spending 25K on a wedding... I'd rather spend that on a house...
Reply:We're getting married July 12th, 2008. We are trying to keep our wedding under $12,000. It shouldn't be a problem.
Reply:May 31, 2008 for about $12,000. We're saving like mad and I'm working a second job to pay for it. I won't regret a cent!
Reply:25 years ago and I'll tell you this......the first house I bought was 2 bedroom/2 bath and it was $25,000.00. How in the world can you put a smiley face at the end of that? What a waste of money!!!! You could feed a lot of starving people on that kind of money. I'd feel guilty if I were you.
Reply:Congrats on your wedding! Wow you are lucky that you get to spend so much money on your wedding. My fiancee and I don't have a budget so we're paying as we go but we will most likely spend about $3,000. We don't have savings so I don't know how we're gonna pull it off. Oh and our wedding date is January 19, 2007.
Reply:02/14/09. We are having 250 guests, 21 friends in the bridal party and our budget is at $25,000!:) Luckily, we got a free Mariachi group, a free photographer/videographer and someone who is doing all the fresh flowers as a gift! I might come in under budget, but I saw a beautiful cake for around $900.00, so we shall see! By the way, I haven't told him how much the cake costs! He will freak out....lol
Reply:tomorrow I'm eloping
Reply:Ours is set for 09/12/2009. We're still in the planning stages but we're looking at about $30,000 right now.





This is a second marriage for both of us but neither one of us did things the way we wanted to the first time around so we're kinda making up for it. We also live in a rural community and both the matron of honor and best man are coming in from out of state so we want to pay for their hotel rooms which is increasing our costs. We're also paying for out wedding parties clothes since we're doing 1800's reproductions. Just our rings alone are over $5000! We're having fun with this though and our friends, family and each other are worth every cent!
Reply:Wedding costs are nuts. I spent $4000 on my dress and we ran into some big financial problems recently so we can't even get married anytime soon. It's insane how much it costs to get married, it makes it so hard for young couples to have really nice beautiful weddings. I wanted to do a small wedding and in Florida having under 30 guests would have cost about $18,000 going cheaply so we are just going to have to wait. The cost of the wedding isn't even the total, people forget how much the rings and honeymoon cost too!! We spent $11,000 on my engagement ring, nice to look at and I'll have it to wear my whole life but kinda unnecessary. Looking back, we coulda spent the money more wisely.
Reply:My wedding date is set for January 24, 2009. My budget (without parent's contribution, and not including rings) is $4,000. The rings come to about $3,000 and the parents are contributing about $5,000 all together! Best wishes for your wedding!
Reply:I know I'm probably the cheapest woman alive, but I spent less then $700.00 for everything for my wedding. I did about 95% of the work myself. I had a budget of $850.00. I just wanted something extremely small at first without family around.. But hubby wanted his mother and sister there. So I planned for $850.. and 40 people.. My day was WONDERFUL! And btw.. weve been together a really long time. :) So have a beautiful day.
Reply:I am getting married in April 2008 and will be going the cheap route. I could rack up some credit card debt for the wedding but we have decided that we don't want to do that. We are working to finish paying off our debts and save for the wedding.





I want a lovely wedding but at low cost so I am doing the following:





I will be ordering flowers and making the arrangements myself... me and the bridesmaids are going to get together and make our bouquets. The flowers will be about $300.00 and there will be plenty!!!











I have decided to get the dress that I want so I will be spending $800.00 on it. http://www.foreverbridals.com/gownpix.as...





Instead of paying to have my wedding catered I am going to be serving h'orderves. I am going to buy alot of them from BJ's and have family help with bringing it and setting it up. There will be some things that they will make also.... This will save us alot of money and everyone loves h'orderves :)_ I feel like they should be there to witness our marriage and it should not be all about the food. $400 - 500 ... I do plan on having some people serve the drinks and keep the tables tidy





A family member will be playing the piano and we will also have a dj which is also a friend of the family. $0.00





Tables and chairs are free :) But I will be paying to cover them which will make everything look beautiful $300.00





My aunt has offered to pay for our wedding cake :) $350.00 - Aunt = FREE





The ceremony and reception will be at the same location which is CHEAP 250.00 for the whole day/evening. It sits 200+ and has an attached kitchen.








As far as the decorations... I have been picking them up along the way. I am collecting class vases from people... garage sales... I have not spent more then 2.00 and have all that I need and they are all lovely.








Also... after my wedding I plan on selling all the decorations and my dress...So that will be some money back in our pockets :)


These are just some of the cost. I do not plan to spend more then 3,000.00.
Reply:Sorry I would answer but I Really don't know. Ask again in about 60 years! And then see what I come up with.
Reply:i just dumped my boyfriend im not getting married boo hoo
Reply:Our wedding date is April 19, 2008 and our budget is around $10,000. Thank goodness we live in Iowa where that type of budget actually results in a decent wedding! I watch the bridal shows and am amazed how much it costs to pull off a wedding matching what I am having in a big city! I am suddenly glad to be a midwestern girl!
Reply:Getting married 5th April 2008 and our budget is around $10,000
Reply:My wedding is either going to be May 31, 2008 or the next week June 7, depending on which day the pastor is available. I'll know within a couple weeks.





My budget will be about $5000 and so far we are doing decent. I went a little overboard on the dress compared to what I was going to do, but I am cutting the costs in other areas to make up for it.





So far everything is turning out simple and beautiful. It's so perfect!
Reply:Our date is August 20th, 2008 (for our 4th anniversary) in Hawaii with 50 guests. our budget is $20,000 BUT i really did not want to spend that much. I've been shopping around and figuring out how to make most of the things we want/need ourselves. We're also having a "reception" back home for 300 people. So now we're looking at less than $10,000 including honeymoon and spending money.
Reply:Too bad my man wont decide on a date yet for us. But the ring is being purchased. First thing set was a budget of 10k, both families have never had a big wedding so we are blessed enough to enjoy a decent/extravagent ceremony. Also believe if you got it, flaunt it. Enjoy what you do have cause tomorrow it could get washed away and your memories will remain forever. But NEVER go into debt for materials things Understand the difference.
Reply:You're very organised, that's heaps good. My wedding is next November, and will cost $20,000 but in AUD. I have done heaps already. Happy wedding.
Reply:Sometime in 2009, no set date yet. I'm looking to spend 20K tops. It's hard, most of my estimates so far have me close to 25K with just the basics. So, I really don't think you are overspending. So far, the cheapest reception hall I saw was $65 per person w/o tax and gratuity. We have a big family (140 people combined-I have 15 first cousins w/spouses and SO alone-that's 30 people right there. And YES...I'm close to all of them. We grew up in the same town and went to school together)





So Bottom Line.....don't let people hate you your 25K budget. Everyone's guest situation, etc is different.
Reply:Our wedding date is October 18, 2008. My parents gave us $5,000. His parents haven't given us cash, but have offered to help. We're paying for anything outside of that. We've booked the venue, and I've made my bridesmaids bouquets (they're silk, obviously, and 4 beautiful fall bouquets cost me about $30!) That's about all we've accomplished so far!





So much to do still!!!





Have a good wedding!
Reply:mine was on 6/2/07 and my budget was 3,000 it was a very nice small ceremony and reception and then we went to hawaii
Reply:My date is 4/21/5056


and my budget is $45





im poor but i got the biggest box in the neighborhood woohoo

dream theater

How do you look after a poinsettia plant please? mine is tall and spindly but flowering beautifully?

friend tells me to get rid of it but it was a gift. will it die if i cut it back? what shall i do? can i take cuttings off it? will they grow?

How do you look after a poinsettia plant please? mine is tall and spindly but flowering beautifully?
I can offer a bit of hope. I have a poinsettia that is two years old. It started to get spindly and I got worried that it would die. It was so ugly that I took a chance and cut it back - it lived, and it grew back its foliage. I left it outside over the summer and the sun and weather helped it along. Now it is back in the house in a sunny window and doing fine. Just be sure it gets plenty of sunlight after you cut it and don't over water it (very important - water it enough to soak the soil thoroughly once about every 10 days). Good luck!
Reply:Poinsettia plants get tall and spindly. That's just what they do. Their branches are very delicate and break easily in heavy wind or even rain. They do best under an eave or sheltered by other trees. However, they need as much sun as possible to really thrive.



They don't do well in pots or large containers. If you got yours that way, it will have to be transplanted or it will die. Most gift poinsettias are cuttings that are bred for show and don't transplant well, although I've done so successfully for years. The problem is that they might last until the first frost, but then get whacked by the cold. They are a semi-tropical plant and don't do well away from temperate coastal areas.



They can be raised from cuttings, but I've never had any luck doing that. Also, be careful of the white sap as it is mildly toxic - won't kill you except in large amounts, but if injested can make you sick. (It can be toxic to small animals and should be kept away from children!)



Sorry for all the negative. I love poinsettias, but they are probably best enjoyed for the short time that they last, then discarded. If you live along a warm coastline, or have a hot house, you can keep them going for years. Hope this was helpful.


Help to identify a house plant! There is something wrong with it!?

My friends gave me a plant as a housewarming gift about a year ago. I was never a flowers/plants person so that being said I have no idea how to take care of it. All I do is water it when remember. Today I looked at it and saw that all lower leaves had something on them. Little rusty-brownish spots that can be removed if you rub them off. I wasn't sure what to do so I cut off all leaves that had this stuff on them and cleaned the remaining ones.

The problem is I don't even know what kind of plant I have therefore don't know how to look up for treatment. Can someone help me! I am attaching image of it:

http://www.sendflower.co.il/images/amena...

Help to identify a house plant! There is something wrong with it!?
I do believe your plant is a Dieffenbachia. And sounds like you have spider mites.



If you want to keep your houseplants healthy, you need to be able to identify the problem when their appearance is not quite right. Follow these steps to determine if mites are causing trouble.



1. Take a close look at your plant. You may not see mites, but there are other signs that you can watch for.



2. Keep an eye out for very fine webs on the bottoms of the leaves.



3. Check for the mites themselves if you don't see any webs. Use the edge of a sheet of white paper to tap the plant near its base; if mites are present, you will see small, pinpoint sized specks moving around on the paper.



4. Eliminate the mites using a mild insecticide mixed with soapy water.
Reply:this is a diffenbachia or dumbcane. ...


How can i make my fiance-to-be feel more like my equal?

My fiance-to-be continually tells me that i am too good for her. She loves me and does not want to break up with me, but i just hate having her feel that way. How can i show her that i appreciate her and what we have and make her not feel like i am better than her, but instead that she is the perfect person for me, and is more than my equal? I love her, and i don't want her to have to think about that, and i try to show her by giving her gifts and flowers. What can i do?

How can i make my fiance-to-be feel more like my equal?
try confiding in her, being there for her and assuring her (as you have been) of your love for her, and she will come around, just be patient and attentive.
Reply:Thanks; your comments proved to be very helpful and true. Just so you know, as i have continued confiding in her and appreciating her, she has come around. Thanks for your response!!! Report It
Reply:I always wondered what my LDR saw in me. He was the Valdictorian and I graduated about the middle of my class. We had a great marriage and I do not remember a fight. He told me that he missed me even more after we were married and he went overseas. Report It
Reply:no matter what you do, some people just have confidence problems. they always think that they don't deserve you or that you are too good for them. i don't know what she is like, but buy her something that she would love. it should be something small, but packed with meaning. by her a card to go with it and write her a letter telling her that she is your perfect compliment and no one else in the world would be better with her than you.
Reply:I had a boyfriend that used to say that and it would make me upset. Come to find out years later i found out that it is just a way of saying you're not the one without hurting their feelings.


Is sex really the only good gift to give your guy on V-Day?

there is so much emphasis on what the guy should give the girl... jewlery, chocolate, flowers...What good gifts do guys desire? Or is sex it? LOL!

Is sex really the only good gift to give your guy on V-Day?
Well you can never go wrong with hot steamy chickn nuggs. Sometimes my beau Dr Don McRon desires fresh cut flowers from our back yard garden that overlooks the babbling brook. But what you should do is go get something hawt and steamy for your man, wrap it in tinfoil, microwave it, then give him the charred remains. Attach a card that says "You set my heart on fire" and your set! makes 3 servings.
Reply:it's not the ONLY good gift, but it is, however, the best gift
Reply:Mercedes S class is nice.
Reply:Good sex is not a gift one person gives to another - it is a gift shared that comes from love shared. If he sees it as a 'gift' or you do, someone is not equally invested in the relationship.
Reply:why would you give a guy a gift on V-day?



its not required, none expect it
Reply:Sex should never be JUST SEX! Make of night of fun, dinner, possibly a cute movie where you can spend the night in eachothers arms, whipped cream, strawberries chocolate sauce are all good ways to have fun! you could definately end with sex and laying in eachothers arms(even for a while if you have to go home)
Reply:well it aint all about sex but he will like it
Reply:Sex could ruin a perfect night. Find something that interests him and get him that. get him a book or cd or something like that. OR get him soemthing weird that would bewilder him
Reply:i'd say sex %26amp; sports... try them together - do it doggie style so that both of you can watch the game. he'll love it!
Reply:No, but it's certainly a welcome gift!
Reply:hell to the yes
Reply:sex is it. why do you think we give up all the useless junk on V-day!
Reply:If you're married, yes. If you're unmarried, try a nice card.
Reply:Listen if it works don't knock it
Reply:Sex is good, but the way to get to a guys' heart, is through his stomach - FEED HIM - buy him sweets/desserts. :)
Reply:I think guys would really enjoy sex, but why don't you try baking him something? Make some cookies for him. He'll know you put effort into making them, and what guy doesn't like cookies?

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Different types of jasmine?

A friend of mine bought a jasmine topiary for me a couple of years ago as a get-well gift -- it smelled wonderful! It had tiny white flowers with the barest of pink in the center. Can anyone tell me what type this is? I've checked out star jasmine (MUCH larger flowers) and its too strong. Thanks much!!

Different types of jasmine?
There is also a confederate jasmine like the one you have described.
Reply:Where you are I have no idea where to get jasmani. What you describe is the jasmine I know and have growing in front of my house. Yes it does smell very nice.



I bet if you find people from SE Asia you can find where to get it. It grows wild here and a lit of it.


What is the perfect "hostess gift" for the perfect hostess?

I am often invited to a friend's for dinner. She is a perfect hostess. I tried bringing a home made dish, but her dinners and deserts are always perfect and put mine to shame. I tried flowers, and she always has a better table arrangement!!! I am ashamed to bring anything since I am often embarrased when compared to what she already does! I want to show my appreciation for being invited. Any sugguestions would help, as "tis the season" and I am confident she will invite me to others.

What is the perfect "hostess gift" for the perfect hostess?
I was in this same dilema and ended up bringing a jarred, scented candle and a pound of prepackaged, ground cinnabon flavored Folgers specialty coffee.--if she had a coffee bean grinder I would buy the beans but I'm not sure so I got the ground variety. I have comfort in the fact that these are consumable items that will be used up and not haunt her for years to come. I placed both items together into one nice gift bag so I looked really cute walking up with a pretty bag. --not really but that's the idea, right?



--a nice bottle of wine could be nice
Reply:Here's some ideas:

What are some general gift giving etiquette tips?

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Reply:Bring a nice bottle of wine. Send a thank you for the invite

or both
Reply:i was in a similar situation. And then after awhile the hostess told me not to bring anything, b/c the last cake I brounght they had to throw it away. So i stop bringing things for her, but the children always enjoyed whatever I bring.
Reply:easy. a mug that says "HOSTESS WITH THE MOSTESS!"
Reply:how about one of those flower or wine of the month clubs.
Reply:A Twinkie.
Reply:Some nice bath products gathered in a cute container/basket.



Perhaps a container of holiday cookies on a lovely tray she can use later. Or flavored "stir sticks" that are attractively packaged.



Monogrammed note cards or stationary is always useful. I make my own embossed ones %26amp; include a fancy quill pen %26amp; inkwell for my crafty friends or just a nice silver/gold ink and pen for others.



A nice set of hand towels with a monogram or holiday emblems with a set of specialty or decorative soaps.

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What's a manly gift I can have sent to my honey's office for Valentines'?

My fiance lives 4hrs away %26amp; I want to do something special for him. Sending flowers to his office is kinda lame. Any other ideas?

What's a manly gift I can have sent to my honey's office for Valentines'?
Kahlua chocolate hearts.
Reply:chocolates and a nice (not corny!!!) card


Mothers day, Fathers Day, Valentines Day, etc etc, why all the HYPE and what does it really mean??

Mothers day is approaching and many many people will be out and about celebrating this day with their Moms, Grandmoms, sisters, wives, etc.

Mothers Day; its the one day I choose to do absolutely nothing; I am a Mom 364 days a year biologically that is, but on that one day, I choose not to celebrate being a Mom, but just being me. Motherhood is forever, so claiming that one day on my terms "Mom-free" feels great, so all the hoopla takes a back seat. No dinners at crowded restaurants, no flowers, gifts, etc. Just leave me be.

Fathers Day: Same applies here! My husband thinks its meaningless, so just saying "happy fathers day is enough for him", works for me.

Valentines Day; Same rules apply; no flowers, candy,cards, etc., We call each other on the phone or text, or email "Happy Valentines day" and enough said!!

To each his own, but why all the hype??

Treat me and others special everyday, not just one day!

Mothers day, Fathers Day, Valentines Day, etc etc, why all the HYPE and what does it really mean??
You are absolutely correct. It's just a way for the card , candy and flower people to make money. Everyone should be treated good every day!
Reply:It's just a day where all of your appreciation for your loved one come's out, wheter it's your mother, father, grandmother, etc. To show your love for that person and show and tell them you appreciate everything that they have ever taught you, showed you, and has done for you.
Reply:I'll be spending the day with my mother on Mother's Day, as well as my father on Father's Day. We don't make it a big event, just a day that we spend together because I'm really grateful for my parents. Life is short, no one is guaranteed tomorrow....why NOT make a day to honor the special people in our lives????
Reply:It's just recognizing people for their contributions to life and family. Enjoy.
Reply:People are different..Some like to celebrate it and some just don't. Does it matter? You don't have to upset everyone else...
Reply:nothing
Reply:.....there pretty self-explanatory.

you cant figure it out on your own what they mean?
Reply:Oh my goodness the 'Bah Humbug' has bitten you hasn't it? I have wonderfull memories of little hands, hand made presents, a specially chosen gift from the school Mother's Day stalls. I still have one bought for $2.00 when my daughter was 6 years old, I can still see her beaming face.

These days are what we make it for our loved one's and ourself. I would not deny my children the pleasure of celebrating this day with me. There are no big presents as being in their presence is enough for me. And these days are part of their memory banks for when I'm not around any more.

My Mum is still alive and she loves having her family recognise how lucky we are to have her as head of the family still.

Each to their own I guess, my Dad died 35 years ago and I contact my Mum on Father's Day and she finds this quite funny. As I tell her, "if Dad was alive I would be ringing him" so I ring you.

I live inter-state from my Mum.


Which rose color should i order for a B'daY present?

Referring to my previous question (http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;... i can't make up my mind which colors should i have my buoquet of roses. I'm ordering from a shop near me (http://www.amourdefleurs.net/), the've got a few choices for me to choose. Should it be pure red? white? yellow? or a combination of any of these? you can see sample pictures in the tab "Our flowers %26amp; Gifts" %26gt; "Fresh Flowers". Some of my friends have been debating over two: a combination of red %26amp; white or pure red. Please help me out.

Which rose color should i order for a B'daY present?
The color choice is entirely up to you. But if your are sending the roses to a love interest (g/f or b/f) all red or red/white is a beautiful gift. There is also a rose called Fire %26amp; Ice, which is red on the inside %26amp; white on the outside. This makes a stunning vase. If the gift is for a friend, a not so romantic combination could be pink %26amp; yellow, or either color mixed with white or all of the same color.

But in general, you can't go wrong with roses. Your next decision after you choose the color of roses will be the style of vase...
Reply:It depends on the relationship you have with the person you are ordering for. If it's someone you love get red that means passion and love. If it's just a friend get Yellow that stands for friendship.

And white stands for peace.
Reply:well are you getting this for your g/f or something or just a friend?

red=love

yellow=friend

pink=crush

white=gay

or just ask her what her favorite type of roses is...personally mine is yellow so my b/f gets me yellow ones and so on
Reply:I suggest a boquet not of all roses. but a variety assortment. I personally (not a majority) do not like all roses. try a couple of roses a couple of carnations a couple of Mums or other. See assorments on line. I would steer clear of yello roses as that is "good bye" IVORY IS NICE
Reply:Well, it depends on what you are trying to tell the person. Red roses is the obvious, "I love you". Yellow I believe it to be "friends". I think anything would be great because girls love flowers. Good luck and hope I helped.
Reply:well red is the most romantic...but also is the most original. i would go for white and yellow. or if your not sure try going to www.ediblearrangements.com they have fabulous bouquets that are great for birthdays!
Reply:Pure Red is the best its meaning is True love!!
Reply:yellow


My wife refuses to give me any attention after 11 years of marriage. Should I stay & keep hoping or just go.?

We are married 11 years %26amp; we have 3 wonderfull kids. Our 6 year old girl has problems (was diognosed with depression %26amp; we were both at each others throats %26amp; then she got pregnant with twins. Had sex 3 times that year %26amp; we were cut off in the middle of the last time we had sex. She got pregnant %26amp; I made the mistake of saying are you sure it was mine because I have been cheated on in other relationships. I snapped out of that mode, changed my attitude but she put up a wall toward me %26amp; ever since has told me that she cannot trust me. That was 4 years ago , I have never cheated %26amp; I love her %26amp; my twin boys so much. She refuses theropy. She doen't give me any attention I feel unwanted. She says she wouldn't blame me if I cheated on her. We have sex but she never starts it. I buy her flowers, gifts treat her great.

She says shes not sure if things will ever change. Should I stick it out or find another relationship. What should I do. I love her so much but she won't open up, 4 yrs help

My wife refuses to give me any attention after 11 years of marriage. Should I stay %26amp; keep hoping or just go.?
I wouldn't just "go" but I wouldn't just hope either. Hope won't change a thing. She seems very tortured. My guess would be that a parent or parents were alcoholic or abusive. My suggestion would be to make an appointment with a counselor, and tell your wife, and ask her to go with you. Tell her about the appointment after reviewing your situation which you've just described. Let her know that you are concerned about her and your relationship and that you really want her to go. If she goes, there will probably be quite a wall for the counselor to break through and she'll need to go as an inidividual.

Put the money for gifts and flowers in you pocket they won't do anything for her because deep down inside she "knows" she is ugly, worthless, and an overall bad person.
Reply:Move on, Do it for the children. They should not grow up in a home without love.
Reply:u r doing ur best now its her chance try 2 talk 2 her and ask her what she really wants
Reply:life is too short to wait and you have been wasting too much time, be a hero and find yourself a new life.
Reply:you both need to go to couple's counseling. if she refuses then you need to explain how important physical relations are in a marriage. if she won't budge, then ask if you can go outside of your marriage to get some.
Reply:things won't change. what you see is what you get. leave before you get sick and get your children sick as well. this isn't healthy you need to move on.
Reply:Her whole attitude changed b/c of what you said? I find that hard to believe. I mean, I would be mad that you said that but - I think there is more to the problem then you are letting on.

I think you should try to stick with it if you love her so much. Let her know that you are going to be by her side thru the good and the bad. Good luck!
Reply:If she refuses therapy and is not prepared to meet you even halfway with your needs it is time to rethink your relationship. Explain how you feel to her (if she will let you without blowing up) and try as hard as you can to mend things but if the answer is still the same it is time to move on. Don't waste your life being a martyr it is too short to throw away.
Reply:So sorry to hear that! I think from the sound of things she may have given up and if she is refusing counseling then maybe you should go your own way. Women r so difficult I know i am one..Have you tried communication..that is so important to women BUT make sure you r the listener..and dont talk unless she ask u a question..or pauses and looks like she needs feedback..Good luck to you!
Reply:What is her problem?? u made one comment 4 yrs ago, I wouldn't' cheat on her because 2 wrongs don't make a right

no matter what some people may say. my advice just get a divorce and move on so u can begin to heal, because as long as your with her that will not happen. u don't mention how old u r, this also is a factor. If u r older I can understand u staying, but if u r younger, move on with life. u need to live not exist. u need to set her down and tell her what u r going to do and why, u owe it to yourself. and remember, u will get to see your kids so don't let them be the reason that u stay, u owe it to yourself for a normal life with a loving wife. also if u want 2 try some more 2 make it work I suggest going to counseling. If she loves u she will go, if not there is nothing there 2 save. I wish u the best and hope things work out for u.

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This guy wont leave me alone! Imma lesbian!?

I recently started seeing a new woman, and her older brother's friend is driving me insane!! Asking me out, buying me flowers %26amp; gifts--the guy wont stop! He is well aware that I'm with his friends sister, we've kissed in front of him! How do i get him to stop??

This guy wont leave me alone! Imma lesbian!?
Tell him flat out that while you're flattered and all, you aren't into guys, have never been into guys and will never be into guys and to please stop becuase he's making you and your girlfriend uncomfortable.
Reply:Is he aware that you are in a relationship with his friends sister? and not to sound icky or anything but some people think that your kiss the person you're involved with to impress them. You need to make it clear to him that you are not attracted to him, and that you are in a relationship, and that you have no intention of ever being involved with him. Basically be brutal. But don't put your self in danger. If he still doesn't leave you alone, try talking to some one, that you can trust.
Reply:Ignore him, period. He will stop once he sees that you have a life and pay him no attention. But, if you keep saying no, then he will keep at you. Kisses to you, Im gay, rather cute, and I get girls hitting on me all the time. I have no interest in them, but they see me and want to conquer. Yes, I am honored that they think I am cute, but I have never been interested in girls.
Reply:Tell him if you were straight. Buying love isn't your thing. And trying to earn it, he doesn't stand a change. Tell him its guys like him, if you wasn't gay he would be the one who would drive you to be gay.
Reply:the best thing to do is to tell the guy that he's not your kind and still if he doesn't listen then you should make out with a girl.....
Reply:talk to him and tell him that you dont like him like that and your with someone that you care about.
Reply:Remind him that what he's doing is sexual harrassment and tell him if he continues you'll take legal action. Then do it if need be
Reply:tell him again that you're lesbo and tell him that if he doesn't stop, you will do something.
Reply:What they said.



And if that don't work, kick him in the family jewels.
Reply:tell him to fxkk off.


Some general questions for girls...?

Ok girls, I am a guy who is 23 and single and looking and there are a few questions I am hoping you can help me with.



1. When you and your female friends go out to a bar, are you typically accepting of a guy coming up to you and talking to you, or does that usually scare you or creep you out? I tend to get a negative response from girls when I try to talk to them at a bar or club, and I was just wondering.



2. What is the best way for a guy to appraoch you at a bar? Do certain things get your attention?



3. Why do most girls have a problem with a guy who likes to spoil and compliment them? I really enjoy giving flowers, gifts, and compliments to a girl I am dating, but most of them act offended when I do. WHY?!?



4. Can you tell me some of the signals you intentionally give off to a guy that you like? I thinka certain girl likes me, but I can't tell for sure if she really does or if she's just being friendly.



Any help would be appreciated, and please be honest. Thanks!

Some general questions for girls...?
1. assuming the guy doesn't look like a loser or a freak, I am very accepting of a guy approaching. are you clean, well-groomed, well-dressed?

2. give us compliments, or start a conversation about something current (not politics/religion) or something else maybe that applies to where you are. If there's a sports game on, ask if we are fans or something. offer to buy her a drink. wedding rings get our attention, so stay away if you have one hehe. girls notice your posture, looks,

and smile, and if you can make us laugh.

3. I don't have any problem with any of the compliments, flowers, etc..but do not EVER whine or comment on how much it cost you to do said 'nice' thing. And its probably better if you if you pay for meals--we like that :)

4. if we keep talking to a guy and don't constantly look for our friends or look at our cell phones for an "out" things are prob going pretty well. Ask for our #'s, don't give us yours (unless we ask for it bec we're not gonna call you). You do the work to call us and be chivalrous.
Reply:Well it really depends in what planet you are living in.Us chicks like to go out in a group, just a girls night out.It is really nice when a guy does come up to us in a bar or club.If you end up getting rejected to much doing that, then the chicks you are approaching are to much of a stereotype.I cant speak for all of the chicks out there but you might find that some chicks like it when yous approach us (it bets us doing it, if we are to shy).



Best way to approach a chick is to ask them if they want to dance.Then thats one way of getting us by ourself and get to talk.

I dont know just be yourself !?!?



IOh and if you dont know if chicks like you, you will get alot of smiles, laughs at your jokes and maybe a few winks
Reply:Bars are the absolute worst places to meet someone that you want to have a long-term relationship with you. One-night stands, yes; long-term, no.



#3 blame the feminist movement on that one. Keep doing it though, eventually, you'll meet a woman who appreciates the gifts and YOU.



Smiles at you, tosses her hair, flirts with her eyes.
Reply:okay....

1. If the guy is really cute and funny than it is usually okay if he comes up to a group of girls but a lot of times it is a turn off and the friends will laugh at him. I would suggest chatting them up when they are waiting at the bar for a drink without their friends. Better yet, try to meet girls somewhere other than bars. Usually girls are out at bars to hang with their friends.

2. A nice smile is usually the first thing a guy can do to get a girls attention.

3. Most girls are turned off by the super nice guy. It is sad but true. I think a guy who puts it all out there like that is not much of a challenge and a girl really likes a challenge!

4. I would say she would touch you while talking to you, lean in close to hear you when you talk and smile at you a lot.

You seem very sweet. Good luck!


Bridal shower hostess gifts?

What did you get the hostess of your shower? I'm trying to think of something because they are women who are well to do... I thought about flowers but they're not the type. What did you all do%26gt;

Bridal shower hostess gifts?
A nice bottle of wine is appreciated by pretty much everyone!
Reply:I got mine a BIG green glass vase that was made in Poland. She loves the color green,so I thought of her when I saw it.



I also put a green sachet in there too. My shower was a Tea Party but I saw that vase and thought of her. Besides I'm the bride she should be happy with what I gave her!
Reply:candles or aroma therpy gift bags or both. you can have vitive candles made in your wedding colors with your wedding date on them. Ceecee@gotcha-covered-inc.com. they ship and the products are great.


What would be a good gift for my girlfriend's parents (I'm meeting them for the first time)?

I'm meeting my girlfriend's parents for the first time. We’ve heard you should bring a gift, but we’re not sure what.



We’re traveling from New York to Edinburgh, Scotland, so the usual gifts of wine and flowers aren't suitable.



I don't want to look like I'm coming on too strong, so my gf and I think it would be best to get something from us both.



What do you think would be good? No flowers or wine!



Thanks.

What would be a good gift for my girlfriend's parents (I'm meeting them for the first time)?
i really wudnt buy them anything, it seems to be sucking up to them so much, like ur "Buying there acceptance" bring ur manners and friendlyness.
Reply:how about a book? of something they like, perhaps of America, New York, History, find out what interest them.

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Hoping someone has a great idea for me. My 87 year oldgrandmother is coming for Xmas?

and I need help thinking of a gift. I have done the whole flowers thing, the jewelry thing many times, family pictures and music boxes. Last year gave her a blanket, one year beautiful placemats. She is very special to me and my kids. I do not have a lot on money to spend this year either maybe $30, so try to keep that in mind.

Hoping someone has a great idea for me. My 87 year oldgrandmother is coming for Xmas?
I'm sure just being with her family is gift enough, especially if you show her the appreciation you feel for her.



I also like these flameless candles from Brookstone. (You can get cheaper ones at Target.) They are battery operated, so very safe, and smell really good.

http://brookstone.com/store/product.asp?...



Some nice hand lotion would probably be appreciated as well.



You might also have your children work on something to give her, such as a scrapbook.
Reply:I suggest something homemade. Family photo collage framed, handprints...something really personal.
Reply:How old are your kids? I love the idea of doing hand prints in clay, if they're little. If they're older, obviously this isn't quite as cute! Anything home-made is nice. I find that older people don't really want or need much in the way of "stuff," so something sentimental or that can be used is enjoyed more.



What about a table runner? You can get some gorgeous ones for not a lot of money. Art is always nice as well, or maybe a small scrapbook made by you and the kids. Is there a senior's centre in your area, or a rec centre that offers senior's classes? Maybe you could sign her up for something that she's interested in, like crib, bridge or scrapbooking.
Reply:How about offering her a service instead of a gift? I had a friend who paid for a whole year's housecleaning service for his elderly parents, and they appreciated that very much! If you can't afford to pay for a whole year, how about getting them a one-time maid service. If your grandmother doesn't live too far away from you, you could give her self-made vouchers where you will go to her home and help with the cleaning/washing/ironing/gardening, etc.

The other thing you could do is make a little scrapbook filled with your memories of her, together with photos. You could also make a scrapbook about yourself and the important things that have happened to you this year - I'm sure she will appreciate getting to know you a little better :) The other thing you could do is find out how she spends her time or what her hobbies are, and then you can get something to help her with that.


Flower Girl Gift?

What is a good gift for a flower girl who is 3 yrs old? Something that they will enjoy now, not when they get older.

Flower Girl Gift?
Kids have a short attention span. The bridal stuff would be cute but depending on the child she's gonna get bored with that soon. How about something from her favorite cartoon or something from Build a Bear that she can sleep with or play with.
Reply:Hi, how about a personalized book? Kids love to hear their name in the storyline, and you can put her friends %26amp; families names in the story as well. Go to this website http://www.tlc-expressions.com They have lots of titles like Sesame Street, Ballerina Princess, Teddy Bear Land, Three Little Pigs, Little Mermaid, Mother Goose, Sports titles and so many more. Check it out - they're very reasonably priced, and make a wonderful %26amp; unique gift... Good Luck!
Reply:I would get her something special like a little bracelet or necklace that she could wear and then can be put away for later. You want her to have some sort of sentimental keepsake when she gets older as this is probably her first flower girl job.



We gave our niece a canvas tote bag with her name painted on it and several books inside. She absolutely LOVED it and still uses it today (3 years later) to tote her books around when she goes anywhere.



Check out Lilly's Kids for tons of fun toys and ideas http://www.lillianvernon.com/home.jsp?pa...
Reply:How about a gift certificate to Build-A-Bear-not sure where you live but they may have one near there- Or you could take her prior to the wedding as a special day together. Not like any kid needs more stuffed animals but i bet she would love it!
Reply:A take off of Bubbles idea of the bride Barbie is the Flower Girl barbie. She is really cute, she is a bouquet and when you pull the flowers down the flower girl is on the inside and the flowers become the skirt of her dress. They are GREAT for little girls.
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Lots of great (inexpensive) ideas here
Reply:A few ideas might be a barbie or doll, dress up tiara or shoes, a little gift bag with a coloring book - crayons and sticker book, a little purse that you can put maybe some play jewelry or candy in. Kids that age are pretty much impressed with anything, so I'm sure whatever you choose she will love.
Reply:Get a pink canvas tote bag with a princess/barbie/wedding theme coloring book and a box of crayons and a stuffed unicorn. She can carry it around the party and color wherever she wants.



Usually these can be found at dollar/bargain stores so you could get more than one coloring book. I found a plush fairytale princess doll at one dollar store.
Reply:A gold necklace. They will love it and they could wear it at the wedding. They have this cute charms to go with the tiny necklaces, it's certainly elegant and memorable, and you will be surprised that they are rather unexpensive (About $20).



Good luck
Reply:I got my flower girl a purse. Inside I put chapstick and bracelets. She loves chapstick and is always asking to wear my bracelets that I have on. I also put some markers in there too. She loved it. Hope this helps.
Reply:Bride Barbie- my friends kids are not in my wedding but they will be attending the rehearshal dinner so I got them both those so they won't be upset when everyone else got gifts :)

Little girls love bride dolls!!
Reply:My niece was my flower girl and 3 yrs old at the time. I got her a Precious Moments Flower Girl figurine as well as a special picture frame for her to put the picture of her and I in from my wedding day. She is now 8 and both the figurine and frame still sit on her dresser.
Reply:A necklace with a locket.
Reply:I went with the Barbie flower girl and I also bought her a puzzle. That or a coloring book can be good so they can keep occupied. Children tend to get bored very easily at those type of things so it can keep them entertained at the rehearsal.
Reply:I agree with the bride doll thing or maybe a bride or princess dress up set
Reply:coloring books and crayons