How do you deal with wedding planners that take over?

Im the maid of honor in my cousins wedding. Shes very excited that her neighbors are going to help her plan her wedding for free. Theyre certified wedding planners. However they pressured her into picking out her wedding dress and bridesmaid dresses in 4 hrs, only going to 1 store. Also they tried to tell her what color dresses she can have and what color of flowers need to go in her bouquets. One of them is now in the wedding (after manipulation) and convinced the bride to change the bridesmaid dresses to something that looks good on her (but none of the other bridesmaids). Plus they told her theyre planning her wedding shower and taking her to register for gifts + told her what gifts she should reg for. As the maid of honor I'm offended by that. Especially since I was sitting right there when they announced it. Isnt it my job to do those things? I dont want to put her in a bad situation (theyre her naighbors) but want to make sure she gets what she wants on her day.

How do you deal with wedding planners that take over?
As a wedding planner ( not a pushy one lol) it is very important that they (wedding planners) know it is not their day and that they are in fact EMPLOYEES - contracted by the couple. Their conduct sounds very unprofessional. It is our job to LISTEN to what our clients desire and then CARRY OUT the details. Never to take over but kindly offer advice and proper etiquette. One of our most important jobs - is to relieve the bride and groom of any STRESS doesn't sound like they are doing that so maybe your cousin should find a professional consultant who is in this business to make his/her clients happy - not just themselves.
Reply:Wedding planners are supossed to ASSIST the bride. If they are making demands, or insisting on things, BOOT THEM!! Its not their weeding, its hers!!



They are unprofessional, and need to be removed before they cause a real conflict!!
Reply:Tell them how you feel straight out and tell them they could still help but not be in the way so much like it was their day.
Reply:Wow, I've never heard anything like that. Usually wedding planners can be very helpful. This one sounds very overpowering. I think you ought to have a heart to heart with the bride, and make sure that her wedding is going the way she would like it to go, and how she would like to remember it. Have her tell the planner that she feels like the wedding planner has changed the way she would like to have her wedding too much, and that she has decided to just have a family affair. Small weddings are gaining popularity big time. One bride said, "If I don't think they wouldn't have me over for dinner, then I didn't invite them." Now I'm not sure about going that far. Perhaps have just close family and friends. It will be lots of fun, and then you can save the money for more fabulous details for your wedding or for after the wedding. Hope this helps, and congratulations on your friends upcoming wedding! The day should be about just the two of them.
Reply:most of those jobs are yours. the bride is the one that has the ultimate authority over any and all decisions. the bride needs to take a stand and say that this is her wedding and what the bride says goes. that is wrong what the "wedding planners" are doing. the wedding gift registry should be something the bride and groom do together. after all, it is stuff that will be for their household, right? maybe you could say something to the bride. you are family and the wedding planners are just neighbors, big difference.
Reply:I take over and send her packing.
Reply:Wedding planners can be a pain in the butt. Tell them to leave you all alone.
Reply:The bride need to be more assertive with the neighbors/wedding planners. But, it's not too late. She needs to have a sit-down conversation with them and tell them how she feels, what she really wants.
Reply:The only way to fix that is to get rid of the planners and start over. If they are like that, they aren't going to change.
Reply:Pull your cousin aside and ask her nonchalantly how she feels about all that. If she is upset by it, tell her to just tell her neighbors, thanks but no thanks. It is HER day and she needs to plan it how SHE wants it. No one but her and her fiance should be picking colors, registering, etc. And it takes more than one trip normally to pick out a wedding dress....the first time I went I found 4 I liked, the second time I found 2 and neither were the same as the first time I went. It is your 'job' to throw the shower and help her with the details that she chooses you to help with....sounds like the neighbors need to back off...but ultimately, it's her day, so just ask her what she thinks of it all.....good luck!
Reply:It's up to your cousin to handle it. If she has a problem with it, she needs to talk to these people and not let them bully her. Threaten them they with not being involved at all if they don't back off. Your cousin needs to decide how important her wedding is to her and if she wants to look back on it with regrets.
Reply:There is a magic word that is very powerful but must be said consistently..."NO!". If that doesn't work, fire them (or threaten too) and, as a last resort, stop payment. P.S., this answers can apply to many sales situations.
Reply:if all u care about is making ur cousin happy then leave it cause if ur cousin isn't happy she will say something if not take it into ur own hands if ur cousin starts to get upset ok good luck

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